Seven months of the year have passed already, WHERE DOES THE TIME GO! It's already July and we are now closer to Christmas than New Year. It is scary how as you get older each week seems to fly by. This year has been already so memorable, I've learnt a lot of things about who I am, people I surround myself with and life in general. I had originally today planned a Trek America Haul post but that instead will go up Sunday (mainly because I'm still waiting on a couple of deliveries), I will be showing you all the bits i've bought so far and some outfits I've got planned for each destination on the road.
Instead today my post is 'Seven', (as we are in the seventh month) lessons that I have learnt so far this year. In the last 12 months I have changed drastically I'm more confident, less naive, a little more cautious with people and found what I am passionate about. Without too much more chat, here are 'Seven' things I have figured out.
JANUARY - People aren't permanent.
I am not so much on about losing a loved one, but rather the people who walk out of your life, or slowly fade into the background. In the last year, people I used to speak to practically every day, I haven't heard from in months. We no longer talk and I miss them. That's ok. You remember the good with the bad and sometimes it was even your choice, but not always. The wild adventures, memories and experiences you shared, that bonded you together, no longer seem to matter. It's a rather painful realisation to have to come to terms with.
We fight, bicker, fall in love, fall out of love, unfollow, block, unfriend, ghost...
FEBRUARY - Impulsive decisions are the best decisions.
I believe so strongly in this. This year had a rocky start, you think you know how your life will pan out but its not really in your control. There are so many factors to consider, that in those moments when I just decide to say 'F*** it", I find myself doing the things that deep down I have been craving. I booked Trek America on a whim, one Saturday afternoon I started searching for holidays and next thing you know I'm flying halfway around the world, completely solo. ROAD TRIP! I've never been away on my own before. There's a first time for everything I suppose, but I couldn't be more excited (and a little nervous). I also got a tattoo done at an emotional low point, this isn't something I would particularly recommend, for me it was the right thing to do. I didn't ask anyone else opinion (they all found out on Instagram later) because at that moment in time I wanted to do it, so I did. It gave me closure and I love it more everyday. There's a ton more, I could go on for a while but in short (as long as you can afford to) buy the shoes.
MARCH - Conquer.
Toss your hair in a bun, drink some coffee, put on some Deftones and handle it. Overcoming something you thought you couldn't do is an amazing achievement. A few years ago I wouldn't have been able to run a mile. This year I climbed Ben Nevis (and not the easy way). This isn't just about the physical challenges though. You are your own worst critic and we often stop ourselves from going after what we really want. No matter what your goals, conquer one (or all) of them. I finally set up a design website after years of thinking about it just last month! Now, I'm writing this blog because I have always dreamt of doing it. It may not be pretty and the bugs aren't all worked out, but it's mine. I'm doing it! The more you conquer, the more strength you realise you have. I couldn't imagine my life would be the way it is today, but if I hadn't pushed myself to do a lot of stuff over the years that terrified me, it wouldn't be.
'If your Nerve, Deny you. Go above your Nerve.'
APRIL - Adulting is hard.
When I moved into my flat earlier this year the realisation hit me, this wasn't going to be a walk in the park. My days of endless shopping sprees were over and I couldn't be booking a holiday every other month (how I wish that I could). I had new responsibilities to take into account. Working out whether giving up over half my monthly pay check, so I could call my own place home, is a worthwhile sacrifice was a pretty major decision.
It cost an arm and a leg to move in and I still have so much decorating to do. It's definitely a 'fixer upper'. Funny thing is, I wouldn't have it any other way. Despite how difficult it can be at times (I really do miss Topshop), I've proved to myself I can do it. The new found independence is something I thrive on and honestly I finally feel like a grown up. You appreciate the little things so much more. Not only do I now have a whole new town to explore, places I can go walking, running and camping. There are new people to get to know. I'm happier because I look forward to going on holiday, or days out shopping (just like I used to) but they don't happen as often. Instead working in the garden, completing a DIY job, cooking a meal for friends and family coming round and going shopping for homeware, these are the moments I get excited about.
MAY - People can be petty.
When the noise is negative, block it out. People love to comment on your choices. Tell you, you aren't good enough, you shouldn't do that, question why you have made a decision that doesn't even impact them in any way. WHY? The world of social media and sharing means people think, just because they know one thing about you, it gives them the right to share there opinion. Let them rant, but don't listen. Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself from negativity.
JUNE - Get Involved.
The best events I have ever done are team ones. This year I just completed the 'Color Run' in Manchester. In a little over two weeks, I will be participating in my second ever 'Tough Mudder', with one of my close friends. Get Involved! It seriously makes such a difference to your wellbeing. You get to meet people you otherwise never would have, make memories with them and learn what working as a team is all about. Everyone at these kinds of things has a story, but it doesn't matter what brings you there, just that you are there. The atmosphere is electric and you get swept up in the spirit. It's all about just having fun, being yourself and getting stuck in. You won't regret it! Before you know it, it'll be an annual thing.
JULY - Learn to be less critical.
Every days a school day. Often when things are going good we start to overthink and bring ourselves down. Focusing on the negative rather than the positive. Phases of not caring what people think, then caring way too much. Is it worth stressing over or punishing ourselves? So I'm not a size 6 supermodel, I spent the whole weekend binge-watching Netflix or something I've been looking forward to didn't live up to the hype. One bad day doesn't make a bad week. When I way up the good with the bad (and the ugly), for 2017 I've had a ton more good than bad.
That's it, it's good to make a post that focuses on positive messages, I hope someone finds it helpful. let's see if the rest of the year has more important lessons in store.
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Aby, 24. Northerner.